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Well, the argument with my friend over the stupid little thing came to a head last night. I went ahead and did the thing she said she would help with. Because I had time, and didn't want to be asked to do it late at night, or at the last minute. Well, she got mad. Figures. Now, in her defense, all it would have taken was a phone call or email from me to remind her...but I was at the point in the friendship where I was tired of doing all the reminding. So I went Pfffft on the situation and that was that. Dumb, immature. Needed. There was yelling and door slamming and miscommunications. But, at least it's out there, and we've gotten it out of our systems.

I am so touched by all the wonderful comments I've gotten about the Monster Cupcakes!!






Onto cookies for Mason's class for tomorrow.. They won't be as exciting though :)

annoyed

a certain friend of mine asked me to do something WITH her. It's something that I have a knack for, and since I had extra's of this stuff, I volunteered my time, supplies and ingredients. She suggested today. I got everything ready. She knows we're leaving at 2 for Julie's party. She was reminded this morning by Al. She's not home now. I'm leaving in 20 minutes. I don't know why I ever bother. So effen' annoyed.

Also, I can't find the tights I got Jenna for her Witch costume. I saw them 2 days ago, moved them to a 'safe place' and now can't find them. UGH!

To top it all off I have a cold.

Kill me now...before I kill a certain friend of mine maybe??

The girlie bits

Are probably okay. Maybe. I took my list of symptoms to my doctor today. He put little stars beside a few of the things on my list. Then pushed on my tummy a bit (well, not my tummy really, but you know what I mean :)). We sat back at the desk, and he said he thought that my hormones could be a bit unbalanced. I said hmm... that's not what my internet self-diagnosis told me :) He laughed, and I admitted that I probably shouldn't be allowed to use the internet for medical reasons :) Anyway, he asked what the internet diagnosed me with, and I told him that I had a lot of the symptoms associated with uterine fibroids. He thought about it a bit, and looked at my list again, and then said I could be right. He doesn't think that's it, but agreed to order an ultrasound to rule fibroids out. Which makes me feel better. He also ordered some blood tests to check my hormone levels, and has put me back on the pill for two months, and then I'll go back and report on if there's been any changes.

I'm relieved to be getting somewhere with this, and happy that I didn't accept his diagnosis as the be all and end all of the treatment. Also, Al was able to decipher what my Dr. had written on the ultrasound req. It said dysmenhorrhea. Which after some quick research means painful cramps. BUT!! There's some sort of "secondary" dysmenhorrhea...which can be caused by fibroids! So, I may still be onto something. But if not, well, that's probably a good thing :)

Straaange things are happenin'..

(Toy Story fans will get that :))

There's some big things going on over in my neck of the woods. And both scare me, for profoundly different reasons.

First, we're about 1 step away from buying this house from my Dad (Well, actually the mortgage..it's a long..complicated, story). And in the process, paying off our new van and a loan we took out to pay for Al's student loans. I've been an unofficial homeowner for 2 years.. but this is for real for real. It's scary to go from the small amount of debt we had, to this huge amount, but at least it's good debt! And, we'll be in a position where if we don't want to rent the apartment, we won't have to. Although, I have a lot of renovations in mind for the house, and the apartment would pay for those no problem...so I imagine we'll keep it rented for a year or so.

The other thing is still a bit of a mystery. I've got some stuff going on, with my inner girly bits. I've done a tonne of internet self-diagnosing, and I think I know what's going on, but without seeing my doctor, won't know for sure. The solution could be as simple and being on birth control pills for the rest of my life(not too scary), or it could mean a hysterectomy (way scary), and there's a bunch of other options in between those two. Either way, I'm ready to start feeling normal again. I wrote out the list of my symptoms to take to my doctor (I go Monday afternoon), and as I was writing, it scared me how long the list was getting, but hopefully it just helps my doctor to pinpoint what's going on in there. That's all I know right now. Just that, something isn't right, and if it's the something I think it is...there are ways to fix it. I'm adopting Al's, "Don't worry until there's something to worry about attitude" on this one :) I promise to update when I can.

Okay, because I'm lazy, and haven't blogged in a gazillion years...this is what you're gonna get...bullets.

*Brian and his wife have spoken, have come up with a temporary visitation agreement for Brian to see Damion.

*They are definitely getting a divorce. She's not at all willing to go to counseling, or try to mend their marriage.

*My Thanksgiving was ok. My Mom was all pissy, and I heard more than once that it was probably because it was hard for her to have my kids around, since Damion wasn't there. That hurt. I don't know if it should have, but it did. I could do a whole blog on how my kids used to be her favourites, and that makes me a bit resentful about how she treats them now as compared to before Damion was born, but that will make me sound like an AWFUL person, so I won't.

*I had a great time with my Grandparents over Thanksgiving. Which is super. We weren't close when I was growing up (my Mom's doing, even though she'd deny it :)) So to be able to have such a good, healthy relationship with them now feels really good.

*I am seeing some great signs of maturity in my brother. And i like it, and I am so proud of him, and I want to figure out how to tell him that without it going to his head. hmm...

*I made this with Micheal today. It was totally cute :)


*And that's that.

On a happier note..

Look what I made!!



I saw something very similar in a parenting magazine when I took the boys to the Ontario Early Years Centre on Monday. And as soon as I saw it, I knew my Halloween wouldn't be complete until I made one :) But was worried that I wouldn't be able to find the boa! Well! Lo and behold, I was in the grocery store (of all places!) and there they were, for $2.00 a piece! So I decided to get the orange and black (my inspiration was only orange..and I am tempted to make one in all black). I had the eyes already for crafts with the kids (note to self, get more googly eyes!). I cut a circle out of the bottom of a case of pop, and got out my handy dandy glue gun, and away I went! In total, including cutting the ring out, I think I spent about 10-15 minutes on it! And I LOVE it!! Okay...enough bragging :) Sorry 'bout that...kinda ;)

Still nothing much to report.

My brother applied for Legal Aide today. He is aiming to file some sort of emergency visitation request on Wednesday.

He still hasn't been contacted by his wife. He still has no solid lead on where they are. He is still going out of his mind, as are the rest of us.

As far as having him here on Saturday, it went really well I think. Al and I managed to talk to him, and, we hope, get his mind set in the right direction.

But the longer she stays gone, and the longer she doesn't contact him...the longer he has to sit and stew on his future, and that can't be any kind of fun :(

What a pain in the ass this is.

Goodish news

The police found my sister-in-law and nephew last night. Although, for some asinine reason all that they will tell my brother is that both have been found, and are in a safe place. I don't know any more than that right now.

We're shipping all our kids out tonight for sleepovers, and having my brother here for some kind of intervention. I need to know where his head is right now, and what he plans to do about all this crazy drama. Here's to hoping some good will come of it.

I can't thank you all enough for all your messages, thoughts and prayers. They mean the world to my family and I..

Still nothing.

My brother has Finally called the police to report both his wife and son missing. She's had no contact with my brother, and as far as he knows, did not show up to work this evening.

I've spoken twice with my brother now, and what worries me the most is that he seems more concerned about getting his wife to come back than the fact that their three year old son hasn't been seen for 30 hours. Hasn't been heard from. Now, he did break down momentarily at one point in our earlier conversation...but I don't know...my kids disappeared for 20 minutes a couple weeks ago, and I was on the phone to 911 in an instant. I was distraught. Inconsolable. So why is he so calm? Why did it take me 30 damn hours to call the police to report that his wife had taken their son? It just doesn't make sense. I guess it just shows his immaturity too.

I think I'm going to try to get to my Mom's tomorrow. I won't be able to update much, but I'll do my best.

Please keep Damion in your prayers. He needs everything anyone's got right now.

If you could...

Say some prayers, send some thoughts out to the universe, or just keep some good thoughts in mind for my brother... his wife has taken their son, emptied their dressers, taken Brian's car keys (but not his car), taken Damion's car seat and left. No one knows where she is, or who she's with. And no one knows how long she'll be able to keep up the act of being the good mother that she's never proven she can be. I'm so afraid that she's just going to use Damion as some kind of bargaining tool.

I don't know what brought this on. But I do know that it will break everyone's hearts if we never get to see that little boy again. My brother called the police last night, and they told him they couldn't do anything. So I guess we're on our own in this fight. (Which doesn't make any sense to me!! She took their son without permission, is that not kidnapping?!)

My brother plans to go to the court this morning to file whatever papers he needs to get custody of his son. He's emptied their bank accounts, and is opening new accounts that she won't have access too. Not that they have any money for her to take, but still :) He's said that she can have every single possession he owns, as long as she brings his son back.